Your spouse cannot “hear” what you throw out of anger, even if you apologize. Those hurtful words can work their way into the mind and heart of your spouse, creating mistrust and doubt. Attempts to repair the damage may not be successful, and repeated attacks will create an ever deeper gap between you. While seeing every word you say is not a way to have an open and loving relationship, it can be helpful to avoid five phrases that will [...]
Even at this moment in the #metoo movement, sexual assault is a topic that many people would rather not talk about. But given how common it is, it is likely that you or someone you know has been a victim of it. In addition to this distressing reality, victims of sexual assault suffer so much that it changes the way they see and experience themselves and the world.
You talk, and your partner reacts defensively. Transmitting your concerns is like trying to send a message to a brick wall. Communication about any problem is impossible, creating a growing distance in your relationship. Still, you love them and you want the relationship to work. So how can you get through?